For time being

Temporary

My current state of mind is quite dull. No mood to do anything. I feel just like to lie down, stare the ceiling and go to sleep. Daily chores and household work have no option, so I am doing it.

I am hating to see myself like this. I have always been a happy and cheerful person. I love my schedule, my friends, my work, my hobbies. But since a week or so, I don’t feel like doing any damn thing.

Still I am trying to cheer myself up by doing some grooming for myself. Meeting my besties. Eating my favourite food items​. I feel fine just for that time. Then I am again, back to pavillion, back to the “dull me”.

I know this is a temporary state. I am at my lowest lows now. I will be fit as fiddle in just a while. Just the problem is, I don’t know the duration of this “while”. When this “while” is over, I will shine like a star and rock the show after the break. As it is said , the show must go on….

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If you can’t understand my silence….

Silence

“If you can’t understand my silence, you cannot understand my words.”

I had read this quote few years back, on a poster, where a lion was sitting in a king like posture in the woods.

We do not have to explain our actions. I truly believe whatever an individual does or says is totally his conscience.

We being humans, are bound to make mistakes. People around us will shout at us for these mistakes. But it’s our virtue to be silent at this time.

We need to take up the ownership of our words and actions. If something goes wrong, we should put up the required efforts to correct the wrong.

May be this is the way we cultivate virtues in us, to create a positive environment around us, to create a better society in the end!

Plop down!

Plop

To fall asleep, the moment we plop down in the bed, is the best feeling in the world. It is the receipt that our body and mind gives us saying, “Well done. You have had a perfect schedule for the day. Keep going. You are on the right track!”

The next morning we wake up afresh, to live the next day with a new vigor and energy. Thus we get the positive energy to go on for the whole day ahead.

We all should put up our time productively in whichever way we love to. In the end of the day, we have the satisfaction of spending a fruitful day. This feeling is nothing but “job satisfaction”, as they call it.

Have a happy plop down! 🙂

 

 

Being mom’s mom…

My mom always used to say you should be very lucky so that you get to eat hot food and “chapatti” directly from the tawa in your plate! She always made it up that I get to eat hot chapatti all these years. Today, when she came back from her work, I had cooked dinner for her. I served her hot chapattis. Today I was “the mom” and my mom was me! It felt really great! 🙂

First English Communication Improvement program conducted by me

 

Mansi’s English Communication Improvement Program was a learning experience for me too. When I first met her, talked to her, I noticed few remarkable things. She had very low confidence; she seemed unhappy about something going around, scared to speak up for herself and loads of inferiority confidence. Just one positive thing I could observe, that was the urge to get out of all these negatives but don’t know the way out.

I started up with making her talk. I chose topics for essays with personal experience, where she could connect to herself. I started asking questions about the topic, asked her to note down the points. Then we worked on increasing the number of points for the topic. At first she was doubtful to speak up but then I taught her to ask questions. She responded well!

Next step, we numbered the points we noted down as per the priority. Then we grouped them into paragraphs! We built up at least one sentence for each of the point. She was surprised to notice the development of her essay!

I gave her a daily activity to write down her daily chores. It helped her to construct sentences and I got to correct her tenses right! Another activity I gave her daily was to recite a stotra (sto-tra – a prayer recited in front of God) in Sanskrit with the condition that she should recite it so loudly that it should be heard in another room. I had a secret motive behind this to give an exercise to her vocal cords, this could help her talk loudly and thus give a boost to her confidence! She followed these two things religiously!

I introduced to her the basic etiquette like to greet each other when we meet with a ‘Hi’ or ‘Hello’, ‘Good  Morning / Afternoon / Evening’ as per the appropriate time of the day, to reply with a smile saying ’I am fine. Thank You!’ I explained to her the reason why we say ‘Bless you’ when someone sneezes and ‘Excuse me’ when we cough.

Next activity was to play Scrabble!  We started with simple 3 or 4 letter words and it worked well too. Then we noted down all the words we constructed. We added adjectives and adverbs to all the words wherever possible. Thus I helped her notice the specialties for the things!

Our next activity was List-Making. We made lists of flowers, fruits, things in the room, and plan for the trip and so on. We racked our brain together to increase the number of items in our list.

By now, she had started liking the sessions.  I could feel that since at least once in a day she used to call me up, ask doubts about new words and sentences she read in the book. I felt very happy to see the process of ‘Mansi overcoming her wall of fear’ was started.

Now Mansi could read without hesitation. If she finds a new word she doesn’t know how to pronounce, she can split the letters correctly and put the word together to make a meaningful pronunciation. Also for this new word, she looks up for the correct pronunciation, its meaning, synonym, antonym and other information about it. This was one way to add up data in her vocabulary!

 

With all these tips and tricks I worked out with Mansi, after 2 months and twice a week, one hour sessions, today Mansi can confidently talk to me in English. She asks me about my schedule, shares her experiences, writes down her travel experience to her home town, and makes cards for her Aunt’s anniversary with beautiful quotes in it! Most important thing, she has learnt to make a choice for her and speak it up to the person in front of her!

 

To see the amazing transformation in Mansi was a beautiful experience for me. It gave me a sense of pure satisfaction, to have put in all my efforts to help her stand up for herself and be herself. Thank you God for giving me this feeling of satisfaction, and giving this opportunity to enlighten a life in a small way!