Lucky me…

I was feeling quite down and dull today, because of my work pressure. I have been hating the idea that I have to go to work tomorrow. Even though these will be my last few days in this project, still seeing the sad faces tomorrow morning was the thing, making me sick.

Just then my college mate called up. My mood was instantly happy. He was shouting at me that I don’t call him regularly. We were discussing gifts fir each other on our birthdays. We were giving names to each other, as always. He told he will be coming back in my hometown, the next week. The feeling to see him after a long time was soothing.

We are friends since quite some time, 10 years to be precise! It’s like we can talk for endless time, on any damn topic… He is been in the US for 3 years now, still our bond is still the same. I feel good just by talking to him.

I am thankful to God for blessing me with such a wonderful friend who makes me feeling good and peaceful at heart.

May God bless us with such friends in our lives, just to make sure we are good to go for the next day in our life’s journey!

If you can’t understand my silence….

Silence

“If you can’t understand my silence, you cannot understand my words.”

I had read this quote few years back, on a poster, where a lion was sitting in a king like posture in the woods.

We do not have to explain our actions. I truly believe whatever an individual does or says is totally his conscience.

We being humans, are bound to make mistakes. People around us will shout at us for these mistakes. But it’s our virtue to be silent at this time.

We need to take up the ownership of our words and actions. If something goes wrong, we should put up the required efforts to correct the wrong.

May be this is the way we cultivate virtues in us, to create a positive environment around us, to create a better society in the end!

Empty

Empty

 
The day starts with emptying a glass full of milk. And thus begins the emptying of different things.
Emptying knowledge at work, being on of the prominent one. Emptying head to solve a critical problem too.
An empty head in the morning, is the best time to kick start a working day. It is ready to fill up new ideas, new thoughts and whatever positive happening around.
Emptying a part of the wardrobe once in a while, gives me space (and motivation 😛 ) to go shopping and refill it again!
At the end of the day, emptying the day in a diary is a task too. The introspection lessons learnt are the one of the best moments in the day.

First English Communication Improvement program conducted by me

 

Mansi’s English Communication Improvement Program was a learning experience for me too. When I first met her, talked to her, I noticed few remarkable things. She had very low confidence; she seemed unhappy about something going around, scared to speak up for herself and loads of inferiority confidence. Just one positive thing I could observe, that was the urge to get out of all these negatives but don’t know the way out.

I started up with making her talk. I chose topics for essays with personal experience, where she could connect to herself. I started asking questions about the topic, asked her to note down the points. Then we worked on increasing the number of points for the topic. At first she was doubtful to speak up but then I taught her to ask questions. She responded well!

Next step, we numbered the points we noted down as per the priority. Then we grouped them into paragraphs! We built up at least one sentence for each of the point. She was surprised to notice the development of her essay!

I gave her a daily activity to write down her daily chores. It helped her to construct sentences and I got to correct her tenses right! Another activity I gave her daily was to recite a stotra (sto-tra – a prayer recited in front of God) in Sanskrit with the condition that she should recite it so loudly that it should be heard in another room. I had a secret motive behind this to give an exercise to her vocal cords, this could help her talk loudly and thus give a boost to her confidence! She followed these two things religiously!

I introduced to her the basic etiquette like to greet each other when we meet with a ‘Hi’ or ‘Hello’, ‘Good  Morning / Afternoon / Evening’ as per the appropriate time of the day, to reply with a smile saying ’I am fine. Thank You!’ I explained to her the reason why we say ‘Bless you’ when someone sneezes and ‘Excuse me’ when we cough.

Next activity was to play Scrabble!  We started with simple 3 or 4 letter words and it worked well too. Then we noted down all the words we constructed. We added adjectives and adverbs to all the words wherever possible. Thus I helped her notice the specialties for the things!

Our next activity was List-Making. We made lists of flowers, fruits, things in the room, and plan for the trip and so on. We racked our brain together to increase the number of items in our list.

By now, she had started liking the sessions.  I could feel that since at least once in a day she used to call me up, ask doubts about new words and sentences she read in the book. I felt very happy to see the process of ‘Mansi overcoming her wall of fear’ was started.

Now Mansi could read without hesitation. If she finds a new word she doesn’t know how to pronounce, she can split the letters correctly and put the word together to make a meaningful pronunciation. Also for this new word, she looks up for the correct pronunciation, its meaning, synonym, antonym and other information about it. This was one way to add up data in her vocabulary!

 

With all these tips and tricks I worked out with Mansi, after 2 months and twice a week, one hour sessions, today Mansi can confidently talk to me in English. She asks me about my schedule, shares her experiences, writes down her travel experience to her home town, and makes cards for her Aunt’s anniversary with beautiful quotes in it! Most important thing, she has learnt to make a choice for her and speak it up to the person in front of her!

 

To see the amazing transformation in Mansi was a beautiful experience for me. It gave me a sense of pure satisfaction, to have put in all my efforts to help her stand up for herself and be herself. Thank you God for giving me this feeling of satisfaction, and giving this opportunity to enlighten a life in a small way!

List Lesson

I am a book-lover since childhood. I have collected all my favorite thoughts, quotes, notes, poems, short stories in a dairy. It displays a beautiful transition of myself from a kid to a teenager to a mid-twenty person. All the favorites are seen there with a beautiful memory behind each one!

Would love to list a few of them here…

– “You are not fully dressed until you wear a smile.”

–  “Smell your cheese often” – Book – Who Moved my Cheese

– “What would you do if you didn’t get frightened” – Book – Who Moved my Cheese

–  “It is okay that something around you is not perfect, as you would have done that.”

– Be like the flowing river,
Silent in the night.
Be not afraid of the dark.
If there are stars in the sky,
reflect them back.
If there are clouds in the sky,
Remember, clouds, like the river, are water,
So, gladly reflect them too, In your own tranquil depths.
– Manuel Bandeira
(Like the Flowing River by Paulo Coelho)

-“…some emotions don’t make a lot of noise. It’s hard to hear pride. Caring is real faint – like a heartbeat. And pure love why, some days it’s so quiet, you don’t even know it’s there.”, -Erma Bombeck

– “Never let the fear of striking out keep you away from playing the game.”

– “Thoughts become Things!” – Movie – The Secret

– “Make a list of your dreams, your short term and long term goals, each item with a time-line. Re-read the list in a while. check whether you are going in the right direction.”

– “Forgive and forget.” It helps to keep life simple. 🙂

-“You can’t give what you don’t have.”

-“Keep things simple and your logic clear.”

-“Be Cool. do Cool”

To sum it up, I can just say… You see the world, the way you are… So be happy and live life King + Queen Size..!!!

Our Time

“How I spent my Diwali Vacation” was the topic for essay writing session, given to kids, on the day they rejoined school after the vacation. All of them were engrossed happily writing, except Ramesh. He was looking around, waiting for others to finish. Teacher came up and asked for his essay. “I didn’t spend the Diwali Vacation, it was spent,” was the only line written in his book. Like Ramesh’s Diwali Vacation our life too is spent. Time just flies away in a moment and when we look back, our reaction is “Oh, it was just yesterday.”

            While calculating the to-do list for weekdays and weekends, we miss out to plan our lives. There are so many small-small things, which we wish to-do and achieve for ourselves and our dear ones. But most of it missed out in the lapse of time. Have we ever given a thought, why?

            Pick up a pen and paper, and just jot down all the things you want to do, with the timeline for it. Daily take up a min to re-read the list. See for yourself and your thought process will start up in the back end. You will take out time for the things you wish to in the time you have.

            “In the end of life, you won’t regret for the things you did, but for the things you didn’t do.” So buddies take it up and live it up!!!

The Zone

A corner and a really good book is my “Zone”. It’s a part of my daily schedule! Every day I need some food for thought and the books provide me that. The corner of my room acts as my best supporter, to just sit back and relax. It makes me feel comfortable and cozy! A cherry on the top is a cup of hot coffee… It’s like my perfect date with myself!

I am surrounded by a crowd all day. They inspire me in different ways. I try to absorb the good things among them. In the end of the day, I try to sum up the events, the thoughts and things learnt in “The Zone”.