Let bygones be bygones…

One-Way

Everyday we meet our folks. The everyday ones, the besties, the oldies, the blue moon appearances, and the categories continue… We interact with them. There is a barter of thoughts.

Each of us has our list of likes and dislikes. We all have our point of views. There comes a time when we fight for “the last word”, while sometimes we “agree to disagree”.

The next time we meet, it’s a decision to be made; whether to let go the past and start afresh or to live with prejudice and play the attack-defense game.

I have learned to follow the former one! I just live in the moment, say out loud whatever I feel and relax. I follow my heart, to just look forward rather than in the rear view.

Like it’s said “To err is human, to forgive is Divine”! I feel to let go the bygones is the simplest implementation of this quote. It’s the easiest way to buy peace for ourselves.

As quoted by Dale Carnegie in his book ‘How to stop worrying and start living’, he says “to live in day-tight compartments”. It’s nothing but to focus on the today’s day and face it, fair and square! Set targets for the day, achieve them, pat ourself on the achievement and that’s it. For me, to implement this was a tough job. But after racking my brain regularly, I can now very well decide the tasks for the day and achieve it.

In all these quotes and sayings, there is a common thread. We need to look in one way, we need to look forward. Let’s  seize the moment between recent past and immediate future, and live a happy life!

 

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Surprise package…

Everytime I meet this person I find something new. This “new” is many facets. I am in a total “awe” state every single time.

Anywhere, anyone has an work related issue, he is given a call. All the work related issues are solved… Phew… Just like that!

If you need help in writing emails, especially escalation mails, he is the specialist!

He is learning Indian classical music since a very long time. Thus has an amazing music sense!

He loves all kinds of music equally. May it be film music, classical or instrumental. With this know how, he creates moods for music in a startling manner!

He sings all the songs on whistle too. Sometimes he whistles just to appreciate a song, a expression, a quote or even a comment!

He does an amazing analysis of things around us. May it be planning a car pool, driving the car in a crowdy area, to restart a bike on a rainy day, to have a perfect sense of attires, an exemplary taste of perfumes….

He is a perfect gentleman in all ways. Right from doing shopping for his dear wife, to ask me whether I will drive home safely; from being at home to have company to his father, to give company to his friends over drinks; from doing social work as a hobby, to be a helping hand at home…. He does it all, whole heartedly!!

He loves mathematics dearly. He shares amazing shortcuts in maths. He knows some bewildering stories of mathematicians and their findings.

He always has a pleasant smile. He has a vast sea of friends, whom he cares a lot and who care for him too. Whenever he is around, you laugh out loud, your spirits rise up to new highs…

With all these virtues, he is never boast about it. He is very down to earth in all ways.

This is the best surprise package I had ever seen. These are the facets known to me to date… Hoping to explore the next set, the next time…

I pray for this friend of mine, that he all his dreams come true and all his wishes be granted. I am blessed to have this wonderful friend in my life!

Lucky me…

I was feeling quite down and dull today, because of my work pressure. I have been hating the idea that I have to go to work tomorrow. Even though these will be my last few days in this project, still seeing the sad faces tomorrow morning was the thing, making me sick.

Just then my college mate called up. My mood was instantly happy. He was shouting at me that I don’t call him regularly. We were discussing gifts fir each other on our birthdays. We were giving names to each other, as always. He told he will be coming back in my hometown, the next week. The feeling to see him after a long time was soothing.

We are friends since quite some time, 10 years to be precise! It’s like we can talk for endless time, on any damn topic… He is been in the US for 3 years now, still our bond is still the same. I feel good just by talking to him.

I am thankful to God for blessing me with such a wonderful friend who makes me feeling good and peaceful at heart.

May God bless us with such friends in our lives, just to make sure we are good to go for the next day in our life’s journey!

If you can’t understand my silence….

Silence

“If you can’t understand my silence, you cannot understand my words.”

I had read this quote few years back, on a poster, where a lion was sitting in a king like posture in the woods.

We do not have to explain our actions. I truly believe whatever an individual does or says is totally his conscience.

We being humans, are bound to make mistakes. People around us will shout at us for these mistakes. But it’s our virtue to be silent at this time.

We need to take up the ownership of our words and actions. If something goes wrong, we should put up the required efforts to correct the wrong.

May be this is the way we cultivate virtues in us, to create a positive environment around us, to create a better society in the end!

Empty

Empty

 
The day starts with emptying a glass full of milk. And thus begins the emptying of different things.
Emptying knowledge at work, being on of the prominent one. Emptying head to solve a critical problem too.
An empty head in the morning, is the best time to kick start a working day. It is ready to fill up new ideas, new thoughts and whatever positive happening around.
Emptying a part of the wardrobe once in a while, gives me space (and motivation 😛 ) to go shopping and refill it again!
At the end of the day, emptying the day in a diary is a task too. The introspection lessons learnt are the one of the best moments in the day.

First English Communication Improvement program conducted by me

 

Mansi’s English Communication Improvement Program was a learning experience for me too. When I first met her, talked to her, I noticed few remarkable things. She had very low confidence; she seemed unhappy about something going around, scared to speak up for herself and loads of inferiority confidence. Just one positive thing I could observe, that was the urge to get out of all these negatives but don’t know the way out.

I started up with making her talk. I chose topics for essays with personal experience, where she could connect to herself. I started asking questions about the topic, asked her to note down the points. Then we worked on increasing the number of points for the topic. At first she was doubtful to speak up but then I taught her to ask questions. She responded well!

Next step, we numbered the points we noted down as per the priority. Then we grouped them into paragraphs! We built up at least one sentence for each of the point. She was surprised to notice the development of her essay!

I gave her a daily activity to write down her daily chores. It helped her to construct sentences and I got to correct her tenses right! Another activity I gave her daily was to recite a stotra (sto-tra – a prayer recited in front of God) in Sanskrit with the condition that she should recite it so loudly that it should be heard in another room. I had a secret motive behind this to give an exercise to her vocal cords, this could help her talk loudly and thus give a boost to her confidence! She followed these two things religiously!

I introduced to her the basic etiquette like to greet each other when we meet with a ‘Hi’ or ‘Hello’, ‘Good  Morning / Afternoon / Evening’ as per the appropriate time of the day, to reply with a smile saying ’I am fine. Thank You!’ I explained to her the reason why we say ‘Bless you’ when someone sneezes and ‘Excuse me’ when we cough.

Next activity was to play Scrabble!  We started with simple 3 or 4 letter words and it worked well too. Then we noted down all the words we constructed. We added adjectives and adverbs to all the words wherever possible. Thus I helped her notice the specialties for the things!

Our next activity was List-Making. We made lists of flowers, fruits, things in the room, and plan for the trip and so on. We racked our brain together to increase the number of items in our list.

By now, she had started liking the sessions.  I could feel that since at least once in a day she used to call me up, ask doubts about new words and sentences she read in the book. I felt very happy to see the process of ‘Mansi overcoming her wall of fear’ was started.

Now Mansi could read without hesitation. If she finds a new word she doesn’t know how to pronounce, she can split the letters correctly and put the word together to make a meaningful pronunciation. Also for this new word, she looks up for the correct pronunciation, its meaning, synonym, antonym and other information about it. This was one way to add up data in her vocabulary!

 

With all these tips and tricks I worked out with Mansi, after 2 months and twice a week, one hour sessions, today Mansi can confidently talk to me in English. She asks me about my schedule, shares her experiences, writes down her travel experience to her home town, and makes cards for her Aunt’s anniversary with beautiful quotes in it! Most important thing, she has learnt to make a choice for her and speak it up to the person in front of her!

 

To see the amazing transformation in Mansi was a beautiful experience for me. It gave me a sense of pure satisfaction, to have put in all my efforts to help her stand up for herself and be herself. Thank you God for giving me this feeling of satisfaction, and giving this opportunity to enlighten a life in a small way!

List Lesson

I am a book-lover since childhood. I have collected all my favorite thoughts, quotes, notes, poems, short stories in a dairy. It displays a beautiful transition of myself from a kid to a teenager to a mid-twenty person. All the favorites are seen there with a beautiful memory behind each one!

Would love to list a few of them here…

– “You are not fully dressed until you wear a smile.”

–  “Smell your cheese often” – Book – Who Moved my Cheese

– “What would you do if you didn’t get frightened” – Book – Who Moved my Cheese

–  “It is okay that something around you is not perfect, as you would have done that.”

– Be like the flowing river,
Silent in the night.
Be not afraid of the dark.
If there are stars in the sky,
reflect them back.
If there are clouds in the sky,
Remember, clouds, like the river, are water,
So, gladly reflect them too, In your own tranquil depths.
– Manuel Bandeira
(Like the Flowing River by Paulo Coelho)

-“…some emotions don’t make a lot of noise. It’s hard to hear pride. Caring is real faint – like a heartbeat. And pure love why, some days it’s so quiet, you don’t even know it’s there.”, -Erma Bombeck

– “Never let the fear of striking out keep you away from playing the game.”

– “Thoughts become Things!” – Movie – The Secret

– “Make a list of your dreams, your short term and long term goals, each item with a time-line. Re-read the list in a while. check whether you are going in the right direction.”

– “Forgive and forget.” It helps to keep life simple. 🙂

-“You can’t give what you don’t have.”

-“Keep things simple and your logic clear.”

-“Be Cool. do Cool”

To sum it up, I can just say… You see the world, the way you are… So be happy and live life King + Queen Size..!!!