Let’s cross over…

Zebra crossing – to cross the road. A bridge to cross the river. The flyover to cross a crowded area. Cross the ocean, cross the sea, cross the lake, cross the stream; hire a boat and you can cross these water bodies. This crossing activity is for overcoming the obstacles, leading us to our destination.

Second thoughts… Other than these geographical obstacles, we have our personal obstacles… our fears. Sometimes conscious, sometimes sub-conscious; we always have them.

We have our “can’t do it” items. Adventure games, bungee jumping, sky diving, para gliding,  hiking in the woods, looking down the heights, pursuing hobby in busy schedule… We feel a churn in the stomach listening to these. Somewhere in the corner of our heart, we wish to do all of it. But… this “but” stops us from doing it. What to do, to remove this “but”?

Start working on one fear at a time. Start with lowest intensity, e.g. Simple adventure games, looking down 10 storey building, devoting 10 min in a week for your hobby… Sounds doable? Yes? Just the thought, of doing it makes us feel happy. Pat your back, for beginning the transition to cross over your fears!

The happy feeling, after doing something, we could not achieve for years, itself will be your motivation to keep going. Congratulations! You have started your journey, to overcome your fears… Let’s cross over…!!!



It starts with waking up or no. Then whether to snooze the alarm or no. To decide the color of the day. To decide the mood of the day. Every moment in a day, is indeed a decide moment!

To decide whether to reply the “Good Morning” with a professional smile or the standard auto-reply “Very Good Morning”. To decide whether to put a mask of “being cool” or the show the original “No BS accepted” look. To decide to be furious over the heated conversation in the war room or to just let go.

These are just the everyday things. Just give a thought for some life-changing ‘Decide’ situations!

To decide to spend all your savings on that diamond ring or no. To decide to get tattooed or no. To decide to ditch your job or no. To decide to follow your passion or no. To decide to confess your love to your crush or no. To decide to risk the introduction of your girlfriend to your parents, as your fiancee or no. To decide to be “friends-only” or no. To decide to succumb the tough times or no.

Whatever you decide to do, just stand by it, with all your might. After all, God helps them, those who help themselves!

My Manager – this time a good one!

Having worked with a few projects at my workplace, gave me a chance to meet a bunch of people. Every time it’s a new place, new work station, new team, and of course, a new Manager! Listening to this name, the IT world will either swear words or give a smiling sigh of relief! For my current manager, I will go with the later one, Thankfully! 🙂

You can set your clock looking at his routine. At 11 am, he enters the hall with sack on one shoulder and lunch bag in other hand. After giving good morning smiles to everyone, (mentally taking note of everyone’s where-abouts) he settles at his work station. Exactly, fifteen minutes later he is up, to grab his tea in his mug and water bottle. In the afternoon, 3 pm is his tea-o-clock and water refill session!

His meetings start exactly as scheduled. He enters the meeting room with his opened laptop, a notebook and a pen! The beauty of his meetings is we get answers for all our queries and they end on the scheduled time. No delays what so ever! Even during the critical phase of our project, he was very much calm and cool, which was the best hope for our team.

Periodically he talks with the team, gets to know each one of us. He has detailed information of one and all. He supports us at our times of contingencies. Most important, for all kinds of approvals, may it be leaves or anything else, he trusts us in every respect.

It is the very first time, that I have a chilled out reporting Manager. A very emotionally intelligent person, with a clear vision in life is the best way I can describe him. May God Bless this gentleman, and shower His blessings over him and his adorable family!

Permanent Change…

When the workplace and home are the two ends of the city, the commutation time becomes crucial! To decide how to spend these daily hours is fun in the beginning, then bit confusing and then frustrating at times.

My routine of travelling by office bus, took a turn; a nice one I should say. Carpooling, the change in my schedule. One of the friends’ of my friend, asked me if we could start car pooling. I said yes, that very moment. Less had I known that this change would come out to be such a wonderfull one!

Me and carpooler friend, are successfully pooling our cars since a year now. Looking back at these months, recalling the time we spent together, I feel amazing! Every day was a new day, with a new mood. These moods were flavoured with daily news, dressing trends, driving traits, shortest paths, upcoming technologies, the Hot Cakes in Gizmo market and the list goes on…

We both being music lovers, we listened to all kinds of tracks. Right from Indian Classical to Soft Rock, we love all of it. It was all about the heart’s demand, what made it feel happy that day.

My driving lessons were also a daily task for him. To make me a pro-driver, comfortable to drive in all traffic conditions and terrains, was like a duty to him. I loved it the most! Believe me, to get a compliment from him saying, that my driving is improving, was like touching the sky! 🙂

Saving sweets for one another, being company for lunches when regular lunch groups are away, giving honest feedback, lifting up moods; soon became a part of routine. We were friends before, now we are besties!

Another change was by the corner. This time it hit me like a thunderbolt! This friend of mine would be shifting to a new workplace. Half of my heart is happy for him, since it’s a great opportunity for him to pursue this dreams; other half is sad, we wont’t see each other daily…

It’s a total chaos for me. As it is said, this is life and nothing in life is permanent, except change. I guess, this time it is for me…


Strengthening the strengths…

We are all made up of ions, the positive and negative ones. We have our list of pros and cons. We have our selections of ok and not-ok!

How often we focus on “the don’t wants”, “the can’t dos”, “the hate its”, rather than “the surely wants”,”the can dos”, “the love to do it”… We have heard many folks saying, take efforts to overcome or lessen our weaknesses. I add to it, sharpen and strengthen your strengths too! What say?

We all have a lot of “I can do this very well” inside us. It’s just a matter of time when we dive into it and make it a part of our daily routine. The old wisdom in our homes always reminds us to practice daily, to make the outcome better and better…

Let us start working on our skills just to make them better. I wish you all the best towards this journey of a better “you”!




Follow the heart…

You feel like doing something totally out of the blue. You just wish to get up and get going for a drive. You want a warm hug in the arms of your dear one. You desire to lay in the bed, bunking office on a weekday. You crave to have your favourite ice cream in the middle of the night. You want to go all the way to the other end of the city, just to sip your favourite coffee!

Just look at the list! All of these wishes sound so weird. They make no sense at all. It’s an assortment of illogical notions. But, these thoughts surely made you smile, for a while!

These instances are from our routine life. Give a thought for some of the life changing decisions. Choosing your hobby as your career. Investing in a not-so-popular theme. Starting a venture tossing the current reliable job. Standing firmly by a friend who is dejected by society for being less fortunate. Doing an act against the socio-economic culture… All this, just because your heart says… it’s right, just do it!

The heart’s voice is our courage. It’s the strength which refuels us, every single time we need it. Mind you, it’s very very powerful which can make you go topsy- turvy. In the end, making you proud of yourself and making you own yourself!


Tiny Little Things…

How you express your love, your care, your affection? It’s just taking care of the tiny little things. It can just be holding the heavy office bag, carrying the jacket in AC movie theatre or refilling the liquid soap at the washbasin!

It takes a lot of thought to be proactive. You really need to be a keen observer. These small observations are your love for the person. These become our guiding light to the adoring actions.

Love whispers in the beautiful language of these actions. It is the touch of a warm hand in a crowd, saying,”Don’t worry, I am there by your side!”

Lucky are the one’s who are blessed with such loving hearts! May God bless these soulmates!